Preventative measures for a crush…

Well, today I found out that one of my dearest female friends has a ‘crush’ on me. Well, by saying ‘found out’ I mean this:

We had, over a video chat no less, a conversation about her current boyfriend, who she complained is more interested in ‘making out’ than talking, and discussing politics and life, something which this friend and I frequent often.

By this point in the conversation I was already becoming slightly weary, as we had already had a few unfortunate ‘collisions’ over the past months (in other words, she trying to grope me in a corridor…).

I could tell what was coming next, so I decided to ask her whether there was someone else (mistake!), she went on to say that there was, and then gave me an almost perfect description of myself, down to the last hint of campness. She even said that he lived in my local area, and she lives miles away from me. My mind was now in chaos, as I had absolutely no idea what I was supposed to do.

Why does the red heart pop out whilst the blue heart sinks in?

The story was strange, she talked about having been to my/his house many times (true) and having been on a family holiday with me/him recently (also true). I am almost certain that her new crush, is me. Why? It wasn’t her language, or her awkward, impromptu story, but her facial expressions, body language, and eye contact. Let’s assume, that it is me. What am I supposed to do? I see three potential reactions:

1. Play along with her ‘crush’, let her ask me out, go out with her for a bit, come out of the closet to the world, and ruin our friendship
2. Don’t play along with her crush, pretend not to take any hints, and if she does ask me, reject her, probably damaging our friendship
3. Come out to her  – probably improving our friendship

Now, the way it has been set out makes the third option look by far the most appealing, but in reality, it isn’t. I’m not only sure whether I’m ready to come out yet, but not sure how she would react, and whether she would keep it a secret. It is important that I get this right, as not only will I face similar situations as a closeted man, but I don’t want to hurt anyone!

What is the ethical thing to do here?

First moral dilemma of a gay teen!

Well, firstly – if you’re new to this blog, you should see the post beneath this one, it will give you a little background information on who exactly I am…
Now – informed reader – my first dilemma isn’t actually all that new, it’s been plaguing me for a few months now, and that is – What should my policy be on girls?
Over the past few months, I have received quite a lot of interest from the opposite sex, namely – the female. For a normal teenage guy of my youthful years, this would not pose a problem, but for me – it is! I have had to decline quite a few offers to ‘go out’ with girls, namely from SG, LJ, and KP, and I worry that more is on the way. I really enjoy spending time with these women, but don’t want it to turn into anything that it is not! What should I do!? I’m under an unbearable amount of pressure from society to ‘get with a girl’, and it is almost all my friends talk about, but as a guy still in-the-closet, it’s the last thing on my mind! What should I do when people ask me whether I’ve had a girlfriend or not, whether I’ve ever kissed a girl? What should I do when girls flirt with me? Help!